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There are many books out there on narcissism but this one is very different: “It changed my life, this doesn’t just look at how to recognise a narcissist, or how to feel comfort in blame – it looks at the cause of narcissism and the route out of it – through forgiveness and understanding. It is a true gem that will stay with me forever.” An amazon.com review. Firstly, every detail of this book is true. The names have been changed to protect everyone’s identity. This is the first ever book on narcissism written by a psychotherapist who has suffered first hand, the very subtle and insidious impact of domestic abuse at the hands of a covert narcissist. The author was in an emotionally and psychologically abusive marriage for 7 years, and then decided to retrain as a psychotherapist. Here she describes the journey from not being aware, to becoming aware. To understanding what abuse really means, to when it is time to forgive and when it is time to move on. The author explains: “In the end I felt worthless and frightened. During our marriage my husband would have uncontrollable rages over an accident, a mistake or an opinion. I would always try to reason with him, I’d argue or say sorry. I tried every strategy I could think of and I never gave up hope. I was always trying to get back the man I’d fallen in love with, but he never did come back.” “It took many years for me to realise that I was the victim of abuse. I was caught up in a situation that I thought I could fix, but this was not a relationship of mutuality, negotiation, compromise and give and take. It was not a relationship where both parties have empathy. It was not about love, but power and control.” “I was a young, beautiful, happy woman with everything to live for. I fell for my prince charming who was perfect in every way, but after having a baby, everything changed and after many years of insidious emotional and psychological abuse I finally realised I was married to a narcissist, and found the courage to walk away.” This is a book about one woman’s experience, on knowing what to do when you lose faith in your own judgement. Covering popular themes of the silent treatment, cognitive dissonance, the idealize, devalue and discard phase among many more. This is a story of one woman’s strength and courage, to finally find the power and strength within to break free.

Author: Davies, Audrey

Topic: Family / Parenting / Childbirth
Media: Book
ISBN: 1521332088
Language: English
Pages: 66