Description

Anyone who has a co-worker, friend, partner or child knows someone with erroneous thinking. All humans are susceptible to leftover childhood misperceptions and young people are especially vulnerable to misinterpreting themselves based on their environments. The goal of this book is to lighten life’s journey for young people by informing adults about what kids are actually thinking and offering effective ways for adults to help them.

It is surprising to realize how young people make sense of their worlds. Kids can believe they are responsible for their parents’ problems, they may interpret divorce to mean something negative about themselves, young children believe most of what others tell them and virtually all youngsters are given misinformation at some point. The frustrations caregivers face may unwittingly be based on young people’s wrong thinking. When adults discover what kids actually believe – not what adults assume they understand – parents, teachers and caregivers are in positions to help young people understand the world correctly and develop healthy strategies for living.

The first part of the book is about what young people think and how they came to believe it. Section One includes how everyone’s thinking makes sense to them; four major components of faulty thinking for young people; ways caregivers can understand and influence youngsters to think correctly; trauma’s effect on beliefs and the science behind believing. Without adults having this information, kids will carry erroneous beliefs forward and make repeated decisions based on uninformed, inaccurate assumptions. Intentionally influencing what young people think is important because beliefs underlie the actions, self-perceptions and self-worth of people everywhere.

The second section of the book reflects viewpoints developed from interfacing with young people and their families over several decades. Some of the perspectives mentioned will be reminders of common practices; some will be new tools to help adults find out what young people are thinking; and a few ideas will stand in contrast to current culture. Some of the ideas presented may be outside contemporary norms, but these views are intended to reflect the needs of young people and their unique requirements for mental, emotional and relational growth. The second section also includes outcomes from research that support a parenting style which sets children up for healthy self-esteem and effective interactions with others. Some parenting styles that hamper independence and success are also briefly mentioned.

Lifespan Integration(LI) is mentioned within the text. LI is a professional counseling modality that helps people of all ages heal from their problems and think truthfully about themselves. It is a profound method for healing trauma, which does not re-traumatize clients or create secondary trauma for therapists. LI is used to heal a wide spectrum of issues, including birth trauma, adoption and various ways in which people become emotionally stuck and repeat dysfunctional patterns. Peggy Pace, MA, (2003) developed Lifespan Integration, which has become a mental health modality used around the world. Two brief cases using LI are included.

It may be mystifying, humorous, challenging and humbling to realize how young people make sense of their worlds yet doing so can change the course of their lives.

Author: Thorpe, Catherine

Topic: Family / Parenting / Childbirth
Media: Book
ISBN: 981913717
Language: English
Pages: 222